A Ted Ed video showing you how stress works and its effects
People are still not comfortable with technology.
They keep on sending messages via everything possible and they read Facebook’s news feed BUT it’s nothing like seeing them in person.
When you see them in person, a whole lot of things unlock in their mind:
– they develop an opinion about you
– they develop feelings for you
– you are present in their short-term memory if you see them once or during a short amount of time
– you are present in their long term memory if you see them several times during several weeks or months and if they attach emotions to the image they have of you in their mind
By seeing a lot of people very often, it happened to me to get invited to many events.
And it wouldn’t have happened if I kept messaging these people without meeting them.
Why is this?
I think it’s because communication between humans depend on way more than just the content of your message.
It involves body language, intonation, behaviour, face expressions.
All that allows us to trust or not somebody else. To be present or not in the mind of somebody else.
It helps us relate to the other, to remember us that the other is just another human with his qualities and flaws.
We need to see if somebody is dangerous or not, it depends on the survival of our species. That’s how we survived so far.
When somebody is wearing a mask, a costume, something hiding his face, we can’t judge him fast enough.
So we don’t trust by default.
We don’t trust the unknown by default. We can unlearn this behaviour, by consciously noticing when we are doing it.
We judge people according to their appearance, behaviour, clothes because we need to categorize to go faster in our decisions, and also because it is less computing mentally.
If we see “Person A” wearing “Clothes A”, having a “Face A” and he represents a danger, the next person: Person B having similar “Clothes” to “Clothes A” and similar “Face” to “Face A”, we will deduce that he is as dangerous as Person A.
As easy as it is.
It’s a survival reflex but you can control it, you can choose to judge quickly or slowly people. You can learn and unlearn what you want.
Like always, the answer is: Balance. Not too much of something, not too few of it.
Our mind keeps on going everywhere, constantly when we are awake.
We analyze situations, environment, people. We judge, we choose with which emotions we react to something.
We think about the past, the future and sometimes even the present.
When we are facing problems, we focus on them.
Sometimes we are happy and we want to be entertained.
Sometimes we are not happy about our life and we want to change our mindset.
For all that, there is escapism.
Whether it is your book, your movie, video game, music, it helps you focus on something else, enter another world with your mind.
You suddenly follow the story of somebody else, relax, or imagine yourself living the story of a specific character.
It helps you perceive the way the author, composer thinks through his work.
As for everything, some of us abuse of escapism instead of trying to fix, improve their life.
They consume substances to help them relax, control themselves, think about something else.
I think the key is to learn to do that by yourself without the “help” of substances. To become mentally stronger and stronger little by little.
I hate it. It’s just completely stupid according to my opinion.
I don’t like when a trend starts and more and more people are jumping in the bandwagon.
What does it show? That you can do like others? be like others?
I know it feels great to belong to a group and a big one moreover but there is way more to learn by taking a step back and watching them from far.
In masses, people loses their identity. If people starts doing something stupid, the rest of them will just follow them without thinking.
It’s dangerous for people inside and outside the mass.
You want examples of what I call mass effects?
– Football supporters or hockey supporters
– Day one buyers of an electronic device like iPhone, or movies, or video games.
– Trends of Facebook, Twitter posts: Elections, Star Wars, Back to the future….
– People drinking alcohol and wanting others to drink too.
Innovation doesn’t happen by following others like a sheep.
Don’t try to be like the others, be yourself.
If everybody goes in one direction, take an alternate route.
If you want more information about mass effect/crowd psychology/collective behaviour, I recommend starting with this Wikipedia article and browsing the links referred there: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crowd_psychology