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Juvenoia or the fear of the youth

In this video, Michael from V-Sauce explains everything about the psychological phenomenon called Juvenoia.

This phenomenon according to the Wiktionary is :

” The fear or hostility directed by an older generation toward a younger one, or toward youth culture in general.”

https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/juvenoia

 

It doesn’t seem like a very documented matter.

Google even lists the video as the best match.
I let you be the judge.

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Free will doesn’t exist

We all want to be free of thinking, moving, speaking as we want.

We talk about freedom as it was something existing.

But we are chained to everything.

To our condition of animal, to our condition of human, of social beings.

We even depend on the weather and on a lot of unpredictable things.

 

About our condition of being an animal:

Try to live without eating, sleeping for example. We all got used to it since always. We don’t question it. It is considered as “normal”. The concept of free will would be to be able to choose whether or not we want to sleep now. But you can’t choose, you have to sleep.

And we can apply this to everything.

You have to eat, to eat, you have to have money. If you didn’t get rich enough to be financially stable your whole life, you will have to work.

So you can’t say that you don’t want to work, or eat.

When adult you usually have a sex drive, so you will want to find a mate.

You can try to deny it or try to live without it but I wish you good luck.

 

You will have to acquire some social skills, some “manners” because you will most probably live with other human beings. Your parents, siblings, cousins, teachers, employers, nurse…. whatever. You will acquire a behaviour which will be conditioned by your entourage.

Your entourage doesn’t like when you put your elbows on the table while eating? They will nag you until you behave like they want.

 

And with all that you acquire a set of actions conditioned by everything listed above. You will survive your whole life by behaving exactly like told. If suddenly you act differently, you will scare others, because we are animals, scared by difference. We want to behave like a uniform group.

So you can’t decide really. We are not really smart. We behave according scripts we formed in our brains. We won’t try this thing because we had a bad experience before (and that’s how our specie survived), we won’t jump on the table in the middle of a debate because it’s not socially acceptable.

We don’t decide much. We follow what we’ve been taught.

There is nothing like free will.

The law of large numbers

In the Disney’s Pixar movie “Finding Nemo”, there is a quote I love:
Marlin: What if they don’t like me?
Coral: Marlin!
Marlin: No, really.
Coral: There’s over 400 eggs, odds are, one of them is bound to like you.

In my head “The Law of large numbers” is a concept that says that in a large number of something you’re gonna find at least one specimen of what you are looking for.

I know it means something else in reality, but I like to make my own concepts and theories about life. You saw that already, right? 🙂

So according to me, if you try to get a job in only one company, you won’t get much chance to get a job you want. If you try with thousand of them, you will get an actual chance to get a job. Plus, you’ll learn in the progress of applying to each of them. Each time you’ll get better and minimize your possible mistakes. Because getting a job isn’t always easy, you apply but you don’t know how many applied for the same position. It’s a matter of skills, timing and luck.

I can apply this concept to everything.

Take martial arts. You can try to do that pretty kick you saw a lot of times. Maybe you call all the times you didn’t execute that move a “failure”, but I call it a “try”.

If you follow your master instructions, and try that 1000 times, I’m pretty sure you will nail it in no time.

You can try a lot of things a lot of times as long there is no damage done of course.

So why losing your time with a company who doesn’t want to hire you? try with the 999 others.

I started to think about this concept when I saw this video I already posted.

It was saying that in a lot of tries, it is normal you’re gonna have a bad and good performance. Derek Muller talks in his video about the phenomenon called “Regression to the mean”. He says that thanks to the statistical nature of our universe, performance tend to be average when performed many times.

I say that thanks to this, you can find what you are looking for.

 

Now the next thing would be… how do I find 1000 interesting companies…. well, that’s another question…

 

… for now I have to find a name that isn’t taken yet for my concept.

Maximizing serendipity? the odds? Multiplying them?

Mind building

Mind building is an expression I use to express what we do when we form a judgement about something or someone. (If someone has the psychological term, please tell me)
All the experiences with someone else, his appearance, behaviour, conversations with you, will form an image of him in your mind.
Sometimes you will remember the last experience with him as a good or bad one.
If it is a bad one, you might not want to remember this person, despite all the good memories with him before.

You can mind build about an experience.
i.e. You enjoyed the first time you dived in a swimming pool, so you are going to repeat it because of the previous experiences.

Or you can mind build based on what others say, what you’ve read.
i.e. you heard diving in a swimming pool was fun, or you heard that sometimes people hurt themselves by landing not correctly.

Or you can mind build based on false assumptions.
i.e. you think that all “swimming pools divers” are professional, therefore you don’t think you can do it.

Sometimes mind building can lead to the “analysis paralysis” which I called over-thinking before discovering the expression.
According to Wikipedia:
“Analysis paralysis or paralysis by analysis is an anti-pattern, the state of over-analysing (or over-thinking) a situation so that a decision or action is never taken, in effect paralyzing the outcome.”
Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Analysis_paralysis
i.e. Let’s imagine you never dived from a swimming pool. Now you are in the swimming pool, you see the diving board. You imagine yourself on it, you imagine yourself diving and all the scenarios possible. The more you think about it, the less likely you are going to do it.
That’s analysis paralysis.

Choose correctly what do you want to think of something.
Be ready, to change your opinion about it, and don’t let it prevent you from doing something you want.

How to Make a Country Rich

A very interesting “School of life” video about:

“If you were setting out to make a country rich, what kind of mindsets and ideas would be most likely to achieve your goals? We invent a country, Richland, and try to imagine the psychology of its inhabitants. ”

This video helps us taking a step back on our society. Our society and social life implies a lot of behaviours.
We are not always aware of them and sometimes we feel stressed or anxious about things everyone else is concerned.
We just behave like that because many of the things we learned imply such a behaviour.

Live and let live

There is a problem in France…
Well more than one…

but one that annoyed me back then…
and I keep on seeing it in the news.

Everyone tells you how you should live, behave. As if there was only one way to live.
The government keeps on voting laws that tells you that you should not download, that you should pay for that, that you should behave like that…
And when a government behave like that, people behave the same.
If people see a government stealing in front of everyone, people will not think by themselves and they will think it’s okay to steal as the government does it already.
But yeah, like I was saying in this post, you belong to groups in France.

You do a mistake, people blame you for that.
You wear something different, people blame you for that.
You don’t obey perfectly to the laws, people blame you for that.
You change jobs often? people blame you for that.
You want to start your studies again at 30? people blame you for that.
You start having a successful business?  people …. you get the idea.

I’m pretty sure you would be denounced by others for something as stupid as jaywalking.

It’s like people like to be good soldiers.
People like to behave the same.
They are not used to difference and they are not ready to accept it.

It’s very difficult for their mind to compute that there is 7 billions people in the world, and everybody’s life is different.

I had to start moving out in different countries to see the difference.
That you can do a lot of things without being judged all the times.

It really frees the mind.

In general, the north Americans are more optimist, maybe less informed and a little bit more naive than the French people but at least they:

Live and let live.

How stress affects your body

A Ted Ed video showing you how stress works and its effects